Hook & Bullet Club reflections

In a week where sadness reigned I looked for a bit of levity if for no other reason than to keep my sanity.
Death steals away so much. Thankfully the love of family is a powerful force in times of loss. But each of us must find our own way, a path we can follow out of the darkness.
So I looked for some semblance of normality for myself. What change in the cards life dealt me did I share with others?

I found it in so many of my friends who shared the loss of a father. From my friend Joe who has lived without his father since just after we finished our college years to Jay whose time of loss is nearly as close as mine.
We’re not alone in the club, I counted Jim, Roger, Mark, Tom, John, Brian, Steve, Paul, Terry, Curly, Earl, Dave, Al...so many I wanted to stop counting.
Each one I talked to offered condolences and more.

“If you ever want to talk about it, just give me a call.”
“Be strong for your family and for yourself when it hits you.”
“I know how you feel and I’m here for you if you need anything.”
“I know everyone is going to say this, I am here for you, but I mean it. I have also gone through it.”
“I often take walks and hear him in the wisdom he imparted while we were together. May that be the same for you.”
“I still miss mine even after 25 years. Now it is up to us to carry the name.”

The club will continue to grow as life moves on from here. We will pick up new members at too fast a pace.

For those hoping not to join for some time yet, may I offer a word of advice? Enjoy the time you have, you never know when God will shuffle the cards and point your life in a new direction.